Boosting Your Self-Esteem Bank Account

How many times have you found yourself setting out to do something and end up not following through?

  • You tell yourself you will start saving money…but don’t follow through.
  • You tell yourself you will start eating better…but you don’t follow through.
  • You tell yourself you will show more appreciation to your partner…but you don’t follow through.

It happens to the best of us. You say you will DO something…and simply don’t do it. Why is this important? Because it directly affects your self-esteem and confidence levels.
What is self-esteem anyway?
Self-esteem is an estimation, a self-analysis of your current belief or perception about your worth or the value you have.

  • How much do you value yourself?
  • To what estimation do you feel good enough and worthy enough? 

Why is it so important to boost your self-esteem and gain more confidence in yourself as you grow?

Because the more successful you get, the more you need to be able to trust yourself and your ability to follow through on your commitments to yourself and others.

The self-esteem bank account is a simple concept to picture what happens when you follow through with your promises and what happens when you don’t. Ask yourself:

  • Do you do what you say you will do?
  • Do you follow through on your promises you make to yourself and others? 

The self-esteem bank account is the total of the promises you make to yourself that you either kept or didn’t follow through on.
Every time you don’t follow through with what you said you were going to do, your bank account gets debited. Every time you follow through and do what you say you will do, your bank account gets credited.
The more you don’t follow through with your promises the more in-debt you become, losing your self-esteem along the way. When you’re “in the red” you can’t possibly trust yourself (and your goals), which means any small change can be a threat to failure.
Do you do what you say you will do for your clients, your partner, your audience?

Just as easily as you can break rapport with yourself, you can break rapport with your clients, partners, and audience when you don’t follow through.

When you DO follow through and do what you said you would do, you can take on more risk the higher your self-esteem is. You can only take a risk to the degree that your bank account is full. The bigger the demands in your life are for change, growth, and unpredictability the more credits you need to pad your self-esteem bank account.
If you’re looking for ways to build up your self-esteem (and confidence) bank account, you want to set yourself up to achieve small victories. Set tasks for your goals that are simple and easy to accomplish so that you gain momentum and confidence by showing yourself that you can follow through and do what you said you would do.
This is called: setting yourself up to win. Create a game you can absolutely win, not one that makes you feel like a failure because it’s so far from where you are right now that you can’t follow through on it.
Small successes not only build your self-esteem bank account, but they make your life better too. You feel more accomplished and more capable when you set yourself up to win.
You can absolutely set the bar high! Just set the tasks to get there to be simple, easy, and small enough to follow through on with 100% confidence. What you’re subconsciously doing is estimating yourself, your capacity, and your ability to have love, happiness, money, a successful career, freedom, etc. all the time.
Here are some questions I ask myself before setting out to achieve a goal:

  • What can I consistently commit to and follow through on 100% of the time?
  • How much time and energy do I have to realistically accomplish this?
  • What is a realistic expectation for where I am at right now and what I want?
  • What are the costs that come with pursuing this goal (financially, mentally, time, energy, etc.)?
  • Does this fit with my ideal business model, lifestyle model, and profit model?
  • What’s my deadline to make this happen? Is it realistic? 

Sometimes you have to ask the tough questions to keep yourself in check. The last thing we are short of as entrepreneurs is ideas! But just because you can, doesn’t always mean you should go after every idea.
Keep yourself in check, keep yourself on track for your own big vision, and set yourself up to win with small, simple steps that you can accomplish with relative ease. That’s how you build momentum, that’s how you build confidence, and that’s how you build trust with yourself over time.
Progress always involves some risk. How much risk you are willing to take and succeed depends on how full your self-esteem bank account is. Start building it up by making the steps simple and easy to commit yourself to, follow through every single time to completion, and watch your success increase…along with your self-esteem bank account!

To Your Success, 
Christine Wilborn